Given the intensity that continues -- two years of pandemic and now new stresses...
we want to offer you the BSE Essentials, all the core videos and select handouts from the full BSE course, at a discounted price, to help you shift out of triggered patterns and train your body, mind and heart to have the life you want to have instead of the one your trauma has engraved in you.
After purchase, you will have access to this product until October 31, 2025.
One of the great difficulties with stress, trauma, and relationship issues in a time of crisis is that we can feel confused, disoriented, and/or lost, finding ourselves uncertain in which direction to go.
Worst of all we don’t feel comfortable in our own bodies, hearts, and minds.
Maybe you’ve had that experience as well?
Most of us want to make sense of what's going on.
We want ways to calm our body, relax our nervous system, and feel safe in our own skin.
Times of crisis can leave us feeling disorganized and/or confused.
For many, this kind of disorientation continues to happen until we learn how to sort out all the many pieces of our inner world. And NOW is the perfect time to build a more solid core to withstand today's challenges.
Crisis, challenges, traumas get worse when we're disconnected from our inner wisdom.
And, being connected inside is something you've always wanted deep down inside.
Being connected shows up as a longing, nudging you despite the awful things that have gone on.
You might not be able to name what that longing is. But that hasn't stopped you from being pinged by it.
Course...when our bodies hurt, our minds go blank, or when our heart is crushed (again and again...) it's not easy to attune to that inner guidance.
Trauma complicates everything.
Yet... something inside you kept you believing, hoping, wanting.
This is the indomitable life force, showing up in nature allowing
... a seed to germinate and flower
... an acorn to become an oak tree
... an egg and sperm to join creating a fetus which becomes an infant, then toddler, then you become you
Attachment theory speaks of the developmental tasks of becoming a solid, steady, secure self.
Wisdom traditions address the longing we all have for something greater, bigger, more heart-full …
Putting these together with body-oriented trauma treatment gives a radically, positive approach to healing that thousands have found life-changing.
Deirdre Fay has been leading Becoming Safely Embodied courses ONLINE for over ten years, constantly innovating to meet people where they're at. And in that process, Deirdre has found simple, practical, concrete steps that work. If your heart is resonating, come join us now to create the life you want!
If you are looking for answers on how to calm your body, ease your mind, and open your heart, the Becoming Safely Embodied Essentials might be what you are looking for...
But... you ask...
HOW do we do that?
The Becoming Safely Embodied Essentials help you start:
freeing yourself from triggers
organizing what’s confusing and disorienting
making sense of what's going on inside
so you can live a more satisfying and fulfilling life to live the life you want to live.
"Get better faster..."
Years ago, when I first designed and created the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills™ Groups, my colleague, Janina Fisher, referred all her clients to the group.
Janina Fisher said her clients "get better faster" when they took the group.
I want the same for you.
I want you to have the experience of calming your body, soothing your heart, and training your mind to go where you want it to go instead of where your history propels you.
Healing from life's difficulties is hard. That’s true.
There is a way to make it simpler....
The Becoming Safely Embodied Skills™ are practices to help you do exactly what the name suggests: Become Safely Embodied
"Thanks for your helpful re-cap of the steps you take to stay calm and centered and your emphasis on practice, so that it all comes naturally in times of distress.
I got so much out of the BSE Course, and continue to find so much comfort in your newsletter. I really appreciate your personal experience and how you deal with it."
~ Mary, Dallas, USA
"You know, Deirdre your words, ‘we are deliberately and consciously changing our lives’ gave me the hope that life could be different.
Then I practiced the BSE skills and experienced how that happened in my own life.
To experience change like this is a miracle."
~Alison (UK)
BSE Background Story
Before my trauma memories came up I was living a really active life, in my body all the time, cycling about 250 miles a week in the mountains and hills of the Berkshires, doing yoga and meditation every day, swimming 4-5 times a week intensively, and running every day. I loved it. Loved being in my body.
That all changed when those memories came up. It was like I hit a brick wall, no longer wanting to do anything. In fact, I was running away from being anywhere near my body. Where before I enjoyed the ease that came with being active or deep in meditation I now encountered a cesspool when I slowed down and tried to go inside. I felt like a burn victim – my skin raw, no longer holding back the roiling, overwhelming, inflamed experience that I lived inside. It was horrible.
Over the years I had great therapy from some wonderful therapists. They helped me put the pieces together again.
I found, though, that as wonderful as my therapists were, there were many, many, sometimes torturous hours between each therapy session. I battled with myself daily, trying to figure out what the heck was going on and how I could find my way through. I went back to the basics I learned while living at Kripalu and applying the yogic principles of how to be in the body.
The sum of all my years of healing became the
Becoming Safely Embodied Skills™.
I launched my first group in the Boston area in the late 1990s. Over the years I’ve had at least one group a year. Then as the demand grew I often had multiple groups happening at the same time, often with the help of Janina Fisher who co-led groups with me.
It was a joy to see people getting the help they were looking for – and getting better as a result of the skills and the work they were doing with their individual therapists.
Since then I’ve gotten phone calls and emails from people wanting to know if a group was near them. Many people are lucky to find therapists throughout the U.S., Canada, Ireland, the UK, and beyond who have been trained to lead the Becoming Safely Embodied™ groups. I get emails from many of you and I’m moved by the stories of your healing.
Yet, there are others who don’t have Becoming Safely Embodied™ groups nearby, or for whom the times don’t work or it’s too threatening to go to a group where your professional cover might be breached.
Practice at Your Own Pace
Simple practices make the concepts applicable to your life, in ways that work for you. No rush. No agenda, except to help you find a way through.
You are NOT stuck
All beings are designed to grow and develop. Difficulty can help us grow-- IF we know how to work with it. That's what the BSE Essentials are for.
Make Sense of the Mess Inside
Our inner world can be confusing. The BSE Essentials help untangle that.
Research-Based
Uses important research from trauma as the foundation for experiential learning
Take Manageable Steps
Deconstruct difficult, confusing overwhelm into small, manageable steps to allow healing to naturally emerge
Practical, Concrete Skills
Learn simple, easy-to-apply skills to use in everyday life to support the healing of trauma and to repair attachment wounds
Becoming Safely Embodied Essentials
Training Based On Research
We've learned a great deal over the years as the research base has grown on treating trauma and attachment wounding. That knowledge - and its easy to apply skills - form the basis of this course.
Learn from the inside out
The facts and the research provide the ground in which deeper wisdom arises. We access it through the body, learning the signals and the guidance that comes from within after synthesizing all forms of mental, emotional, and psychological data. This makes for a richer, more comprehensive understanding.
Make Sense of Your Inner World
Instead of life being confusing or chaotic, people and events will start to make more sense as you practice the BSE skills.
Make the healing process more granular, and it's easier to grow, develop, and flourish.
Grow & Develop
One of my goals, always, is to find the next easy step for you to take.
When we make life a struggle, or it's too big a step to take, all kinds of resistances, fears, and frustrations come up.
Topics We'll Introduce
Why mindfulness, concentration, and self-compassion are the foundational skills for healing trauma
The basic building blocks that organize the inner world
How to deconstruct triggers
Time Boundaries & Time Zones: the present moment and how we get dislodged and dislocated in time and space
Belongingness and how that creates a healing environment
The simple way to be in the present
Ways to calm your body and ease your mind
"I'm going through the material (again), reading my own comments, and thinking OMG! I've come so far! I'm sure I'll have times of overwhelm again but right now I can see how much I've changed. Pretty incredible."
~ Alfred, (Singapore)
"I was re-watching one of the videos from the course, finding them so helpful in making sense of what happens. I had such a strong feeling of, yes, that's exactly the chaotic horrible states I keep falling into over and over...it's just like that.
Anyway, it helped me calm down seeing it so clearly depicted!"
~ Teresa, (New York)
Take advantage of this healing opportunity
Discover how Deirdre uses these skills to help thousands of people across the globe, turning debilitating trauma symptoms into a better life.
Unlock the healing potential through simple, practical, skills that will reorganize what doesn't work, giving you more room for what you want.
The BSE Essentials course is ready for you to start! It's all set up and waiting for you in our private course training portal.
We've put together all the core videos, audios and handouts from the base modules of Deirdre's full Becoming Safely Embodied Online Skills Course that introduce the concepts and give you the step-by-step process to Becoming Safely Embodied.
"...having the next thing I could do when I felt triggered in manageable segments helped a lot. Knowing I could choose something at a length of even 10-15 minutes was really helpful. .... Short segments really contributed to my sense of empowerment and security." ~ Sara
The course material is there for you when you have time. You're always welcome to download the handouts and the course will be available online indefinitely.
Informed Consent: I assume you understand, and it goes without saying, that the BSE course is not psychotherapy, doesn’t presume to be psychotherapy, and won’t be used as psychotherapy. Also, in order to maintain a safe environment for all community members in our space, we have created guardrails for member interactions. Each member of the community is expected to read and abide by our 'Community Standards, Terms of Use, Privacy Policy' which you can find here.
No refunds are available for this product; all sales are final.
Content Portal: When you register for this course, the materials will be shared with you in our secure content portal via an account that is automatically set up for you and registered to your email address.
Purchasing the BSE Essentials presumes that you have read this and understand how it might affect you.
A Word From Deirdre Fay
"One of the great joys of my life has been to walk with people on a gentle path to healing. Combining the best of trauma and attachment theory with practical skills makes a solid platform. But when you add the nourishment of yoga psychology and body awareness you open an even bigger portal for healing."
